Marriage at Mt. Carmel

Below are our policies regarding getting married at Mt. Carmel Friends. Congratulations!

 

  1. Marriage Policy:  Mt. Carmel Friends Church, Cable, OH
  2. PURPOSE: Marriage is a wonderful, healthy, God-designed covenant between a man and a woman that can bring great fulfillment to the lives of both parties. Congratulations to all who have found their life-partner. The purpose of this policy is to clarify the expectations of the church and pastor for those considering having their marriage ceremony at Mt. Carmel Friends Church, and the requisites for use of property and service. Also, this policy defines the sincerely held beliefs on marriage of Mt. Carmel Friends Church and an assertion that we will act on those beliefs.
  3. All marriage ceremonies performed in the facilities of Mt. Carmel Friends Church will be Christian ceremonies in compliance with our beliefs, which are taken from the unity of the Bible and outlined in the Faith & Practice of the Evangelical Friends Church—Eastern Region.
    1. Regarding the beliefs of the EFC-ER (Evangelical Friends Church—Eastern Region) (to which Mt. Carmel Friends Church belongs):
      1. The following are selections from the EFC-ER Faith & Practice, which pertain to our beliefs on marriage:
      2. 304. A union so solemn as marriage is to be entered into only after much forethought, planning and prayer, and ―in the fear of the Lord. Evangelical Friends should seek earnestly the will of our Lord concerning their choice of a mate, remembering the apostolic injunction, ―Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers (II Corinthians 6:14a). Parents should use watchful care to help their children find mates of Christian character and commitment (II Corinthians 6:14-7:1, 10-15).
      3. 305. Marriage is the union of one man and one woman into a oneness that no other human relationship can provide. Evangelical Friends affirm that the Scriptures make abundantly clear that God’s intention is for sexual relations to occur exclusively within the marriage covenant between one man (husband) and one woman (wife), and that homosexual marriages and/or unions are contrary to Scripture (Genesis 2:18-24; Leviticus 18; Romans 1:26-27; I Corinthians 6:9-20). Made before divine and human witnesses, the marriage vow unites a couple so fully that they ―become one flesh (Genesis 2:24; Ephesians 5:31). Marriage also, even more importantly, involves mental, emotional, and spiritual union. Evangelical Friends should therefore enter into marriage under the full persuasion that it is a life-long commitment and union.
      4. 306. … The basis for a good marriage is not sexual alone, but true love that is developed through communication, mutual respect, deep friendship and a lifetime of self-giving, as the Apostle Paul admonished (Ephesians 5:21-33).
      5. 310. Evangelical Friends ought not to marry divorced persons, except where divorce was granted on grounds of adultery and abandonment. We ask our ministers to consider the circumstances carefully, perhaps in consultation with the leaders of their congregations, before deciding whether to perform the ceremony (I Corinthians 7:10-11).
      6. 370. Evangelical Friends believe that every person is created in the image of God and should be treated with dignity, love, and respect regardless of same-sex attraction. We adhere to an orthodox reading of Scripture and Christian tradition that teaches that homosexual behavior is sinful and contrary to Scripture (Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:18-32; I Corinthians 6:9-20).
  4. The entirety of the EFC-ER Faith & Practice can be found on the internet, here: http://efcer.org/media/1/Resources/Faith-and-Practice-2013.pdf
  5. Therefore, no marriage ceremonies will be performed at Mt. Carmel Friends Church that are not both: between one man and one woman, and having the intention that the marriage will last as long as they both should live. The Pastor and/or Administrative Council of Mt. Carmel Friends Church is the sole determiner of whether a marriage ceremony complies with our beliefs.
  6. The use of Mt. Carmel Friends property for homosexual or other LGBTQ marriage ceremonies are explicitly and unequivocally denied.
  7. In cognizance of and distress over the general decline of the institution of marriage in the United States of America and legal and cultural attacks on the ancient God-given framework for marriage, we at Mt. Carmel Friends Church believe that couples need to be well-prepared for marriage, in order that their marriages do not end in divorce or separation, but, instead, are enduring, happy relationships. Marriage is a sacred union, instituted by God, and should not be entered into lightly or unadvisedly.
    1. The following are the minimum expectations of preparedness for couples wishing to get married at Mt. Carmel Friends Church:
      1. Both parties must be 18 years old.
      2. Contact should be made with the Pastor at least six months prior to the marriage ceremony.
      3. The couple should arrange to meet with the Pastor to discuss the marriage ceremony, their relationship, and healthy marriage principles prior to the ceremony—at least four separate meetings (at the discretion of the Pastor) in the six months prior to the ceremony.
  8. Failure to comply with any part of this policy will result in the Pastor not performing the marriage ceremony and/or the use of the facilities of Mt. Carmel Friends Church to be denied.
    1. In addition, all decisions about the use of the facilities and properties of Mt. Carmel Friends Church are at the discretion of the Administrative Council of the church.
    2. All decisions about services rendered by the Pastor of Mt. Carmel Friends Church are entirely at his/her discretion. This includes marriage ceremonies.
  9. Use of Mt. Carmel Friends Church’s facilities must comply with MCF’s Facility Use Policy.